You’ve been invited to a Nikah — the Islamic wedding ceremony — and you’re not entirely sure what to expect. No worries. Whether you’re Muslim, non-Muslim, or just here for the biryani, here’s a guide to help you attend with confidence (and style).
What Is the Nikah?
The Nikah is the formal marriage contract in Islamic tradition. In South Asia — whether in Pakistan, Bangladesh, or India — it’s usually a blend of religious ritual and cultural flair.
It’s simple, spiritual, and deeply community-oriented.
The Structure of the Ceremony
1. Recitation of Quranic Verses:
The Qazi (Islamic officiant) opens with verses from the Quran about love, marriage, and mutual respect.
2. The Ijab-o-Qubool (Offer and Acceptance):
This is the key moment:
- The groom is asked if he accepts the marriage (three times for clarity).
- Then the bride is asked the same (often in a separate room or with a curtain between).
Both say “Qubool Hai” (I accept) three times. Voilà — married.
3. The Nikah Nama (Contract Signing):
Legal documents are signed with witnesses present. Dowry (mahr) is also agreed upon and recorded.
4. Dua (Prayer):
A prayer is recited for the couple’s happiness and future. Cue the sniffles.
What Should Guests Wear?
Think elegant and modest.
- Women: Long dresses, sarees, or abayas with a dupatta or scarf (head covering encouraged, but not always mandatory).
- Men: Kurtas, sherwanis, or suits — skip shorts and sneakers.
Is There a Reception?
Yes, and it may go by various names depending on the region:
- Walima (usually hosted by the groom’s side, a reception-style feast).
- Mehndi or Baraat (pre-wedding or main wedding events with music and dancing — more cultural than religious).
Islamic weddings vary a lot by culture — some are quiet and quick, others are full-on Bollywood meets Baghdad.
A Few Guest Etiquette Tips
- Don’t be surprised if the men and women are seated separately.
- Respect prayer times if they occur during the event.
- Mahr is not a “dowry”; it’s a gift from the groom to the bride.
- And yes, the food will be incredible. Try everything.
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